The Joy to Lead Podcast

Intro to Leadership Styles and Discovering Yours

May 14, 2020 Kaylan Thompson
The Joy to Lead Podcast
Intro to Leadership Styles and Discovering Yours
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The Joy to Lead Podcast
Intro to Leadership Styles and Discovering Yours
May 14, 2020
Kaylan Thompson

Get out your notebooks because I'm going textbook-deep into what a leadership style is, how to discover your style, and how to grow toward your desired leadership style state!

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Get out your notebooks because I'm going textbook-deep into what a leadership style is, how to discover your style, and how to grow toward your desired leadership style state!

Helpful Links and Resources

For more information on the Leadership Academy, visit www.joytolead.com/academy!

To learn more about the Dream to Team Hiring Course & Template Bundle, click here!

Need 1:1 Hiring Support and Strategy? Click Here!

Speaker 1:

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Speaker 2:

I think we can all agree that growing our business alone is pretty dang hard, but here's the bright side. We don't have to go alone. Welcome to the joy to lead podcast where we're all about rising up the next generation of leaders and building teams of purpose and world change. My name is Caitlin Thompson, leadership and team building coach. For entrepreneurs like you, each week we meet with business leaders to bring you life, giving strategies and encouragement to help you grow your team, scale your business, and step into the leadership role that you were created for. So warm up that cup of coffee for the second or third time and let's dive in in today's episode.

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Hey guys, if you've been around for a while, you know that my mission is to rise up a generation of leaders who rise up leaders in their wake. Your leadership is your legacy and that's why I'm so excited to announce the second official launch of my joy to lead group coaching program, joyful leader. The last time doors were open was in January and you guys, this intimate community has been digging deep, learning about leadership, growing closer together and growing in their leadership strengths for the past six months and for the first time since our first launch, I'm opening the doors back up at the end of June for July start dates. This is for leaders building teams. It's a group coaching program in an intimate setting where you'll cultivate the skills and knowledge required to attract top talent, lead engaged team members and scale your business with vision and joy. So if you want to grow your business this year by building and leading a team that you love, it's time to join us and put in the work through this program. You'll gain access to monthly group coaching sessions. You'll also get an intimate community where you'll journey alongside other business owners just like you who are leading teams or who want to lead teams. And you'll also have the opportunity to connect through coworking sessions in a monthly book discussion that we love so much you guys. This is a power packed coaching program and I'm only opening up enrollment twice a year. The next time doors will open will be January, 2021 that's crazy to think about. So here's what I want you to do. If you are interested in joining us, I want you to go now to joy to lead.com backslash waitlist to get on the wait list for when doors open to this group coaching program. Those who are on the wait list will get access to, I'm so excited to say this one on one quarterly coaching sessions with me. Those are private coaching sessions like I give to my private coaching coaching clients and those people who sign up through the waitlist will get access to those sessions. You guys, I need you to head over again to joy to lee.com backslash waitlist to sign up and learn more. Thank you for being here listening to the joy to lead podcast. I love you guys. I think you're awesome. And today is a solo show. Somebody recently reached out and told me, actually it was a client. They said that this was the solo shows are probably their favorite on the podcast. And I gotta admit I'm loving them too. It's awesome being able to talk and people listen, they can't tune you out. You can tune me out, you can pause this, you can whatever. Um, but I digress. It's been really great. It's fun being able to write and to teach and to kind of step into and explore that side of myself too. So I really appreciate your feedback and I appreciate you being here and listening to this podcast. It's so cool, especially if you're listening to this right now as this airs , you're kind of a podcast, Oh gee by like in the grand scheme of things, you're going to be here when this podcast is like seven years old and you're going to be here along the way. And that's just really cool to think about and I'm just honored that you're here along this journey and okay, let's get into what we're talking about today, which is probably what your like eager to get ready to is the actual content. Today we're talking about discovering your leadership style. I talk about your leadership style a lot, but this is probably the first time that I'm actually diving into it. Diving into what it is, how do you discover it? And like what does it actually mean? Like, okay, my leadership style, I have no clue what that means and we're diving into that today. So first off, let's talk about what it is. And it's a really interesting concept to talk about because your leadership style is basically the manifestation of your beliefs , uh, and in your values is the outward expression of what you believe to be true about human nature and about the, the purpose of a work. So let's dive into that a little bit. By definition, your leadership style refers to your characteristics and your behaviors. When you are directing and guiding and aligning a group of people toward a common purpose. And it seeps into the way you communicate, the way you interact with people one on one, the way you build relationships. And there are different leadership styles out there, but I'm going to say something kind of crazy. I think every single human being has a different leadership style. And I think we can categorize them under different umbrellas. I think there's about eight total leadership styles and we can go into that at another time and date. But I truly believe that our personality is our values, our beliefs and our strengths come together in a really unique way to create a leadership style that nobody else has. And to be honest, I spent the first, gosh, like year of my tenure in my very first leadership role, trying to be perfect, trying to be the perfect leader, trying to live up to the expectation and the rules that I had established in my head that by the way, don't they don't actually exist. There is no one way to lead. But in my head I had this picture of a very perfect leader and I was trying to be that to the point where I was foregoing my own unique leadership style and I was hindering my own performance as a leader because I was a stepping into that and I was totally ignoring my strengths. So we're here today to help all of you guys not do that. So let's talk about how your leadership style actually affects your team. And it does. So by setting expectations for the way they communicate with you and build a relationship with you and each other. So your leadership style affects your team and the expectations that they have, which also affects, like I said, the way your team communicates or doesn't communicate with you to the way your team members view and treat their own work. And three, your ultimate effectiveness as a leader for your team. And let's break that down. Like what does it mean to be an effective leader? And I think there's a few components that go into that. And it's one, are you moving your team toward your mission? You know, your ultimate purpose, your vision for your business. Are you tangibly moving toward that in a financially effective way? So, and are people motivated? Do they show up? Are they producing effectiveness? And I think a way we can measure the effectiveness of the leader is to determine how much of the results needed to keep the business alive is dependent on the leaders effort. If it's 100% not a very effective leader because you're not showing people the way to produce those results without you. You know, I would wager a guest to say that you, the most effective leader probably requires like the, the results are zero to 0% dependent on them. That's kind of crazy to think about and maybe there's a little wiggle room in there. Maybe it's like 5% dependent on the leader. But I think when you're managing a full scale team, the effectiveness of your business and your work as a leader that shows up in 95% of your team's work. Now those aren't like hard and fast numbers. There's no study for that. I just pulled that out of thin air. But it makes sense. Okay, so how do you discover your leadership style? So we first have to really understand that each of us naturally view and approach work in the meaning of work in very different ways. And this produces a set of values and beliefs that really dictate the mindset that we use as the foundation of our leadership style. So I want you to get your journal out. And if you're not a journaler, that's fine. You can sit and meditate on these, whatever. I'm kind of a journaler. I go through phases, but I want us each to work through these following questions, no matter our style. So the first one is what do you believe to be true about people and about work through your life? What relationship with work have you seen people form? So think about the thing about your parents and older brother or sister, grandparents, aunts, friends, parents of friends. How did they treat work? Think back through your life and say, what kind of perception do I have about work? The second question is this. What do you believe is the purpose of work? Can it give us joy or does it come from joy? The next question is, do you think human beings like work or dislike work and why? And the next one is how do these beliefs affect your own leadership style? So now that you've journaled through all these questions, you're kind of seeing your innate values about work and about people. And now I want you to think, okay, how am I seeing these values start to show up and manifest in my own leadership style and the way I'm treating my team and the way I'm treating my clients and the way I'm leading in my own home. So if you're having difficulty, I'm going to read two views of work and I want you to listen to your gut reaction. So leadership styles kind of happen on a spectrum. On one far end is total dictatorship. You know, to the point where I don't know, to the point where people are getting seriously injured if they're not doing what the leader wants them to do, that's extreme. On the other far extreme, there's probably a lack of leadership to the extent that you can't even perceive leadership, that's probably so laissez Faire that people are just doing whatever the heck they want. So those are two extremes and people will fall somewhere in the middle. And by the way, I need a caveat and say that I am pulling , um, some of these principles from a really great book that I'm reading. It's actually a textbook. It's called introduction to leadership. There you go. Um, I forgot who it's by. It's by a college. It's literally a textbook. A spy. Oh , was by a man, Peter G, North house. Introduction to leadership concepts and practice. Second edition. You guys, this was a discount if you, okay, here's a hot tip. If you want to continue learning, you don't always have to go out and buy massive courses. You can go on to Amazon, find textbooks and then go back and find used ones of past additions. Super cheap. This textbook on leadership was like eight bucks. So yeah. Okay. Let's dive deeper though. So I read those questions and if you're having difficulty and you want to highlight where you fall on the spectrum, I'm going to read some statements and I want you to listen to your gut reaction. And okay, so here's the first statement. People inherently hate work and they will avoid it at all costs. Because of this, I as a leader need to stay on top of my employees all the time and create strict rules that keep them in check. So the work gets done. Statement one, how do you feel? How does that sit with you? Did you cringe? Did you nod your head? Take note of that. Okay, here's number two, people inherently love work and enjoy it as much as children love to play. Because of this, I can set goals and trust my employees wholeheartedly to pursue those goals with joy and inner determination. Okay. How did that sit with you? Where you shaking your head ahead at some parts where you're saying, Ooh, that's a little risky. I don't know if I could trust that much. Or where were you shaking your head and saying, yes, yes, this is 100% I want you to sit with where you're falling in that spectrum. Do you lean toward one side or the other? And I don't want to say that there's any right or wrong way. We're understanding your leadership style because once you understand the values and the beliefs that you hold, then you can consciously say, do I want to change that? Is this how I really want to lead? Are these the values that I really want to uphold with my team? And if you say yes, you can enforce that leadership style and go wholeheartedly full steam ahead. And then if you say no , that you're probably a really good leader because we should all be saying no. Newsflash, we don't want to take all of our beliefs and our values and all of our mindsets into the future with us. There are some things that we want to grow out of or grow into. So I want us to keep track of that too. So use this. I want you to feel, you know, I've read those two statements and if you need to go back and listen to them again, do so. But I want you to take note. If you're leaning toward one side or the other, do you fall in the middle? And how would you, if you had to go back and rewrite each of those phrases to match your own leadership philosophy, what would you write? And I want you to use that as a jumping off point. So as we began to flesh out our leadership style, this is basically a detailing of how we naturally act and communicate as leaders . So there are several different styles and I'm going to break down a few of them here. Um, I think there's probably like eight or more to breakdown three. And that's one on the extreme side. There's one in the middle and the nose one on the opposite extreme. And they are these. So if you lean toward an author , an authoritarian style, you believe that your team members need direction 100% from you in the form of strong influence and control. How, how much of that do you manifest into your own leadership style? Two in the middle we had the a fair style. Oh actually this is on the far, far end, sorry. The laws fair styles on the opposite extreme where you believe your team members really need no direction from you whatsoever. And then in the middle, do you lean or you do you want to lean toward this style? This is a D , this is a democratic style where you believe your team is capable of strong self direction. So you step up to provide mentorship, coaching, advising and holding them accountable. So those are three basically milestones in the spectrum. And then there's different areas, different styles that fall in between. But I think most of us will be leaning toward or hovering around or wanting to be around the democratic style. But it's so important to know where we want to end up. If we're saying I want to be a more democratic leader, we have to first understand on what side of the spectrum are we currently leaning in . Are we happy with where we are? And if the answer is yes, that's perfectly fine. Go for it. If the answer's no, when you start taking into account what steps we need to take to move toward a more democratic middle. Okay. So from here we can start to tackle our why as well and continue to pursue deeper self awareness and growth. So if we recognize risk or behaviors and values that we really don't want to uphold going forward, we can do the work now to grow in a different direction. Whew. Okay. Leadership one Oh one. There we go. Um, let me know what you guys think. Hop on over to Instagram. DME . Tell me your thoughts. What do you want to learn more about? This was kind of an introduction to leadership style. We have a long way to go to cover more about this, but I want to know, I want to hear from you. What are you thinking? How are you feeling? What do you want to learn more about? What doesn't sit well with you? What are you discovering about yourself? Come tell me all about it. I'm open ears and yeah, thank you so much for tuning in and listening today.

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